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Traditionally the newly wedded couple received
wedding gifts with the idea to help them out in
setting up a household, but in these times
with the people marrying rather late in life and
most of them well settled in their households in
variety of
settings are not in desperate need of another
blender or toaster.
Like everything else the gift giving style has
changed for weddings. First it was the wedding
registries where the couple registered for the
items that they thought they needed to start in
married life which was considered pretty tacky
in some circles but people got over it and now
it has become almost a norm. In fact, whoever
does not register with some sort of wedding
service is considered strange. The wedding
registries like everything else evolved from
modest to outrageous depending on one's social
status and financial position.
Then came the celebrity and rich or ultra rich
"charity donation" concept, since these people
could afford most things in life and then some
more, they did not need to set up a humdrum
household.
Finally now is the time of "money" wedding
gifts, although it has been around for centuries
for instance bride or grooms parents or rich
relatives helping out with money gifts on the
wedding day. In many countries it is a tradition
to give "money"
to the groom and bride on their wedding, for
example in South East Asian cultures.
What is considered "Tacky" is the actual
statement that the couple would like to have a
monetary gift. There are many ways to get
creatively around this sticky subject. The bride
and grooms friends can drop a hint something
like " you know they
are saving for a down payment on a car or a
house etc".
There are many places that the guests can
register for monetary wedding gifts rather than
the traditional gifts. There are certain banks
that have wedding registries for the couple
where a money gift can be made towards a down
payment on a house.
It is only a matter of time when the "money"
gifts will not be a controversial subject and
will be widely accepted in western culture.
Go ahead and don't be afraid to find a creative
way to ask for a money gift on your wedding.
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